When we make a choice to home educate our kids we are often filled with ambition. To remove them from a system that we have lost faith in. To offer them a different life maybe to the one we got. To minimise their lived trauma and celebrate individuality within a diverse community. To empower them with choice of where their life goes.

Except when we have been raised in a system, our heads are filled with rules and expectations that keep US squashed and frustrated.

So if we start our home ed journey without addressing this, then we will see nothing but sacrifice - time, career, loneliness, exhaustion, anxiety, doubt, self confidence wobbles. So much criticism and ‘concern’ will get chucked at us and without a strong transitioning, deschooling mindset any internal ambition or determination for them to have a different experience can get severely weathered - or at worst - snuffed out.

I’m talking here about the sensations of resentment. Jealousy. Frustration. Anger. Fear. Worry. They will SHOUT at you from inside your own head, from your Mother in Law, from the next door neighbour....

Muttering under your breath to full on grown up meltdowns over the time, energy and everything you put in to making their life something different.

The hope, the ‘trust the process’ that feels so alien in a world filled with pre-determined outcomes.

I know it won’t just be me but there's a reason I hesitate to start down this new level of vulnerability. The urge to say ‘but I have a solution and we never have to feel this way again! I don’t!’ Is strong - I don’t want you to think I find home ed hard…but that would be a lie.

I do feel these things. I felt them yesterday. How I handled it, how much it affected me, what it inspired me to do compared to a couple years ago? 1000x different.

Our conditioning and our shadows are there whether we like them or not but the sooner we acknowledge them, investigate them, show them some love and curiosity and find ways to work with them, to answer or reassure them, the sooner we get to stop living a painful lie filled with unrealistic or pointless expectations and start living for ourselves. Actions speak louder than words and I know what I would rather my kids saw me doing.

Don’t just tell them to live different, SHOW THEM.

My clients love me for:

I am a fully trained coach, a home educator of 5 years, I have ADHD and two neurodivergent children. I have lived the process of deciding to go from straight and narrow 'good girl' life that was attempting (and often failing) to make everyone else happy and me miserable...

To radical turn it on it's head - recognising my own needs and wants, Unschooling and trusting my kids as they form their educational journey, de-masking and embracing my family's neurodivergence, dabbling with homesteading, challenging abso-bloody-lutely EVERYTHING. 

I offer you somewhere to be HEARD first, someone to listen to your experiences and to empower you to make changes that YOU want. No agenda here. Whether home education is your path, flexi-schooling, alternative provisions like online school or even if your long-term goal is to get them back in school and thriving. I am here for your journey, it's not about mine.

I will respond to your honesty and openness in a measured, reassuring, non-judgemental way that will help you to reflect on perspectives, themes or rooted beliefs you may not have already considered and break down barriers to new beliefs and ways of being that may feel completely inaccessible right now. 

I have been described as having a mama-bear energy, protective, nurturing, warm and kind. My friends rely on me for my vulnerability and honesty, what I hear in what they say, as well as my passionate, well read, belief systems. 

So, now it’s your turn.

You are a parent who knows you deserve a lot more than you are getting - better boundaries, more support, less 'talking to myself', more fun, more rest, more love. 

A parent who, whether you realise it or not is actually already bloody incredible, that the one inside is just waiting to square their shoulders and make changes that will empower the next exciting phase of your life. 

A parent who knows they deserve better than drudgery. Who deserves to be outdoors if you want, learning new things and making friends, seeking out a fulfilling career - and knows the best role-modelling you can offer your kids is to SHOW them how incredible life should look.

A parent who is currently transitioning away from a mainstream mentality and wants to get there as fast as possible to continue supporting their kids to overcome their struggles too. 

If that speaks to you, even if you have serious doubts about whether any of it is possible, I urge you to reach out. Come and speak to me, I am here to serve those desires, let me show you how.