When we make a choice to home educate our kids we are often filled with ambition. To remove them from a system that we don’t believe will serve them. To offer them a different life maybe to the one we got. To minimise their lived trauma and celebrate individuality and real diverse community. To allow them a choice of where their life goes.

Except it can come with sacrifice - time, career, loneliness, exhaustion, anxiety, doubt, self confidence wobbles - so much criticism and ‘concern’ gets chucked at us and without a strong mindset the internal ambition for them to have a different experience can get severely weathered - or at worst - snuffed out.

I’m talking here about resentment. Jealousy. Frustration. Anger. Fear. Worry.

Muttering under your breath to full on grown up meltdowns over the time, energy and everything you put in to making their life something different.

The hope, the ‘trust the process’.

Them only ever wanting to watch youtube or leaving trails of snack wrappers behind.

I know it won’t just be me but theres a reason I hesitate to start down this new level of vulnerability. The urge to say ‘but i have a solution and we never have to feel this way again! I don’t!’ Is strong - I don’t want you to think I resent my kids…but that would be a lie.

I do feel these things. I felt them yesterday. How I handled it compared to a couple years ago? 1000x different.

Our shadows are there whether we like them or not but the sooner we acknowledge them and find ways to work with them, to answer or reassure them, the sooner we get to stop living through our kids and start living for ourselves too. Actions speak louder than words.

Don’t just tell them to live different, SHOW THEM.

My clients love me for:

I am a home educating mum of two, with ADHD and neurodivergent children. I have lived the process of deciding to go from straight and narrow 'good girl' life to radical turn it on it's head unschooling, de-masking, dabbling with homesteading, challenging abso-bloody-lutely EVERYTHING. 

I offer you somewhere to be HEARD first, someone to listen to your experiences and to empower you to make changes that YOU want. No agenda here.

I will respond in a measured, reassuring, non-judgemental way to your challenges that help you to reflect on perspectives, themes or rooted beliefs you haven't already considered.

I have been described as having a mama-bear energy, protective, nurturing, warm and kind. My friends rely on me for my vulnerability and honesty as well as my passionate, well read, beliefs.

So, now it’s your turn.

 You are a mum who knows she deserves a lot more than shes getting - better boundaries, more support, less 'talking to herself', more fun, more rest, more love. 

A mum who whether she realises it or not is actually already bloody incredible, that the one inside is just waiting to square her shoulders and make changes that will empower the next exciting phase of her life. 

A mum who knows she deserves better than drudgery. Who deserves to be outdoors if she wants, learning new things and making friends, seeking out a fulfilling career - and knows the best role-modelling she can offer her kids is to SHOW them how incredible life should look.

If that speaks to you, even if you have serious doubts about whether any of it is possible, I urge you to reach out. Come and join my community, send me a message, I am here to serve those desires, let me show you how. 

So, what does Offroading Motherhood even mean?

Off-roading for me didn’t mean a 4x4 although it does come with a sense of adventure - a brave, courageous curiousness that allows us to feel our way to the actual present and what we want it to look like.

When we are born we are often placed on a motorway, it only has one destination for us all but it seems we are taught to head down and speed on through. After I had kids it had started to get a little bumpy, I was confused, sad, not really sure why I felt so....ungrateful.